That could mean a holiday card in the mail, a quick phone call, text, email, or LinkedIn message, a coffee chat, or whatever you feel is most appropriate. The important thing, though, is to actually reconnect – the “how” is really secondary. And if we’ve been disconnected a little too long from certain people (we’re talking years), what better time than the holidays to put yourself out there and establish a few new connections!
Earlier this year, I went to a networking event, the first one in quite some time. Yeah, one of those traditional in-person, after-work things that introverts like me tend to avoid like the plague. But I felt it was time to get a little uncomfortable and venture beyond my comfort zone. Fortunately, I recognized someone right away, and this provided a good “ease-in” to help get my feet wet. Overall, the evening went well enough, but these are still “fish-out-of-water” situations for me that fall low on my list of preferred networking approaches.
Fortunately, there are other less traditional, more unconventional ways to make professional connections that can be equally productive and effective, not only for me, but also for those I coach. Part of my job is to get others thinking holistically about networking and use a combination of strategies. For example, LinkedIn is a really effective networking tool if done right. And of course, one of the benefits to virtual networking is that it can be done 24/7 at your convenience. But one of the big mistakes that people make is to put up a LinkedIn profile and call it a day. But more about this in a future blog post.
Beyond doing the online thing, it’s a good idea to consider some other forms of in-person networking opportunities like volunteering. Volunteering has the triple benefit of making the world a better place, helping us gain perspective on our own personal situations, and putting ourselves in a position to interact and establish connections. Actually, any situation where we can interact with others is a networking opportunity: working out at the gym, going food shopping, hanging out at the local coffee shop, joining a meetup, the list goes on and on. Also keep in mind that some approaches may be a better fit than others, depending on where we fall on the introvert-extrovert continuum.
So yes, definitely check out local in-person networking events but also throw in some unconventional and creative things into the mix. A combination of both approaches may just produce the best results!
Now this is an idea I can get behind. There’s a Sephora store in Europe (specific location unknown) that started using color-coded shopping baskets for those who want a salesperson to approach/assist them…and for those who don’t. I almost always fall into the latter camp, and would be reaching for the black shopping basket.
Now if this idea could make its way to the US, and at stores that I actually shop in, then I’d be really excited, especially with the holiday shopping season almost upon us. But it’s a start! A dream come true, at least for this introvert!
One of the first things I look for in my personal or professional interactions with others is some level of interest in who I am, what makes me tick, or even how I make a living. I am really tuned into this.
I recently participated in an online networking event, which in itself is a great idea, especially for an introvert like me. A great idea, that is, if everyone has at least some networking know-how. I was disappointed, however, that at least half of those I spoke with had their own agenda: to tell me who they were, what kind of job they were looking for, and to ask me if I could help them. But this was in no way balanced by any interest in, or curiosity about me. I couldn’t wait to end the conversations. Granted, as an introvert, I’m uncomfortable with being in the spotlight and don’t like a lot of attention shined on me, but just some expression of interest can go a long way. It’s all about the balance.
I’m more than happy to help my fellow networkers however I can – when it’s a 2-way street. Good karma is alive and well when it comes to effective networking! It requires a certain mindset as well. Effective networking is not really about finding our next job, but making meaningful connections and establishing mutually beneficial professional relationships.
I’ve considered myself to be a night owl for a long time, but recent circumstances have necessitated me becoming a morning person (shudder the thought)! We adopted a rescue dog several months ago and, as things have just worked out, I take Timmy on his first walk of the day, which is usually around 6:15-6:30am on weekdays, give or take. An unexpected benefit that I soon discovered was that this “early morning dog walk duty” offers one big advantage, particularly for an introvert like me.
The early morning hours are usually very quiet, where my mind is (relatively) quiet as well. This quiet time has opened up some “me time” before the hustle and bustle of the day begins, which, for an introvert, can be more valuable than gold. It might involve being super-productive during this time, or not being productive at all. I guess that’s kind of the point – it’s my time to do with what I want. I just wish there was more of it!
Beyond this newfound quiet time, there are definitely significant fringe benefits like the roughly 2,000 steps I take before 7am, and of course a little quality time with the pooch.
But there are downsides too. So I like my neighbors and all, and I don’t know if it’s part of some implied social contract, but the last thing I want to do first thing in the morning is make small talk with other “dog parents” walking their dogs. It’s always the same “conversation”, which I’ve had at least a hundred times. And as many introverts will tell you, small talk can get very tiresome, very quickly.
The other downside is that winter-time early-morning dog walks are quite a different story than walks other times of the year (brrr, chill), and there might need to be some renegotiation of duties! But in the meantime, I’ll be grateful for the benefits that come with this new routine of mine.
There’s a great quote that goes, “You never know what worse luck your bad luck has saved you from.” I’m wondering if Robbie’s and my recently cancelled flight to Portugal somehow saved us from even worse luck. I’d like to think so, but even if that’s not the case, there were actually a few good things that came out of this two-day delay. It turns out there were a few things that I had initially forgotten to pack, and it gave me time to reconsider a couple clothing choices. Small details, yes, but still things that could make for a smoother-running trip. I’m also using one less vacation day due to the shift in trip dates, but on the flip side, we were penalized the cost of one night at the hotel due to the last-minute change. After considering the above, plus a few other logistical changes, I remain grateful – mostly because we have the opportunity to go to Portugal in the first place!
Fast forward a week later. On a scale from 1 to 10, I’d give this trip a solid 8. I can also safely say, even though it was very enjoyable, and Lisbon and the neighboring towns of Sintra and Cascais are worth the time to visit, I probably wouldn’t put Portugal back on my list of places to revisit anytime soon, partly because there are so many other places I’ve yet to see. But let’s just say, the secret is out about Portugal. As with most travel destinations that gain in popularity over time, so does the “touristy factor”: restaurant waiters, store owners, street vendors and tour guides persistently, and at times aggressively, competing for the tourist dollar (or in this case, euro), and nearly impossible to get a window seat on “Tram 28” unless you go right at the crack of dawn. Sintra, which was once the home of Portuguese royalty and the site of a Moorish castle, among other notable sites, is beautiful. But it’s also where you’ll see one tour bus after another, long lines (some of the longest I’ve ever seen), and crowds of people (and we were there in the “off season”). As we walked around, we couldn’t help but imagine this town the way it was before it was “discovered”: a quaint, sleepy, picturesque village. The locals are probably at the same time mortified by their town being overrun with us tourists, and grateful for the economic boom we help create.
Now on my Introvert Scale, I’d give the overall trip a 6, mainly due to the crowds and the numerous hectic and hot days of traipsing around the city, seeing the sites and crossing things off our list. Our hotel had a very nice rooftop pool/restaurant, and lots of different areas to just hang out and lounge around. Our last full day was dedicated to just that: hanging out, lounging, and swimming on the rooftop: a nice change of pace and scenery, but more importantly my chance to recharge and come home a little more relaxed.
In closing, I’d definitely recommend Portugal to anyone looking for ideas for where to go on their next vacation: a lot of fun, interesting history, beautiful scenery, nice people. For our next trip, however, I’m thinking a slightly quieter, maybe less “discovered” place where recharging my introvert battery may not even be necessary, and where I can raise the “introvert score” a couple of points at least!
We’re halfway through the week, and I thought it would be a good time to share some profound and thought-provoking quotes. (Actually, anytime is a good time)! It’s difficult to narrow it down to a Top-10 List, but here are some notable introvert quotes, in no particular order…
- “In a gentle way, you can shake the world” – Mahatma Gandhi
- “Introverts dislike small talk, but are fluent in the language of ideas and dreams.” – Michaela Chung
- “People inspire you or they drain you – pick them wisely.” – Hans Hansen
- “Lighthouses don’t go running all over an island looking for boats to save; they just stand there shining.” – Anne Lamott
- “Our culture made a virtue of living only as extroverts. We discouraged the inner journey, the quest for a center. So we lost our center and have to find it again.” – Anais Nin
- “There’s zero correlation between being the best talker and having the best ideas.” – Susan Cain
- “What a lovely surprise to discover how unlonely being alone can be.” – Ellen Burstyn
- “Quiet people have the loudest minds.” – Stephen Hawking
- “I’m indecisive because I see eight sides to everything.” – April Kepne
- “Wise men speak because they have something to say; fools because they have to say something.” – Plato
Just to change things up every once in awhile, Stephen and I will do a blog post that’s “off-topic”. Today, it’s about employee wellness. When I worked at Bloomberg, the company provided free breakfast, lunch, and snacks to their employees all day, 5 days a week, which I happily partook in on a consistent basis. I definitely saved a lot of money on food, but at the same time I undeniably put on a few pounds in the process. After all, those chocolate chip cookies were not going to eat themselves. Yes, there was a decent selection of healthy food, but just as many things that could be considered junk food.
True, there is something to be said for an occasional quick sugar rush during the workday to help us get through whatever task we need to get through. However, the laws of physics inevitably take over and what goes up, must come down, for example eating a high-carb lunch, followed by the “3pm slump”.
Eating healthier has real benefits for both employees and organizations, including sustained energy throughout the day, higher productivity, reduced absenteeism, and lower health care costs. It’s not only good nutrition, but other factors, like increased physical activity, meditation, and adequate sleep also play a part in producing more positive outcomes in the workplace.
Need ideas for what to eat? Well, I get my quinoa salad at Costco, enough for about three or four days of lunches. If you don’t have a Costco near you, here’s a recipe that looks pretty good. Sushi, anyone? Yes, please! (not for everyone, I know). If quinoa or sushi don’t do it for you, here’s a list of 30 foods for all-day energy.